Writing in my head

I’m sitting, crunching a Woolworths gluten-free seeded rusk and drinking coffee while I contemplate how to start this blog.  Such clever ideas always flash in my mind like a teaser in an advert, and then I get distracted!  There are a few reasons why I get distracted … 

Well, firstly, I was clinically diagnosed with ADHD – okay, so this gives me the excuse of following a notification that pops up on one of my electronic devices …. And there goes the thought and the clever idea while I jump down the rabbit hole. Sigh! 

Secondly, I put myself on a guilt trip, saying things like “I promised so and so that I would do this task first thing in the morning”.  If I don’t do it NOW, I’m going to forget, and I’ll do the blog thing later!  

A very close relative to this is …” I should” … “I must” … “I have to” …. Normally, because I’m a people pleaser and try and avoid conflict at all costs.  However, this also backfires because I’m not doing it for me but for others and of course, then my ADD brain kicks in and self-sabotage (otherwise known as procrastination) kicks in. Being menopausal is another excuse I use for being forgetful. 

The only reason why I hate being a life coach is that I get comments from my family saying things like “...but you should know better because you’re a life coach!”  It makes me want to scream!!!  Eish!  I’m human, too, you know. 

I have been learning and researching … researching and learning to make sure that I don’t come across as an idiot and have realised that this is a part of my people pleaser “learnt” trait that I thought I had dealt with forever ago.  

I keep on telling myself … put things down on paper, redo your Vision Board (no it’s not a woo, woo thing and not a fad – it works if you are true to yourself and do not include things that other people want you to do but I’m digressing), link everything I do to my Vision and my Values and make decisions that will help me achieve these things.  Really simple. My Dutch Oma always used to say, “Why simple when you can make it difficult!”  

Okay … so which one of you feels the same way I do?  I need a few companions to go through this process with me – who’s keen?  Just respond in the comments … “I AM” and I’ll send you the info for a FREE mini-workshop I’ve put together.  People pleasing is BAD, but accountability is GOOD. 

Till the next time …. 

Debbie 

Your Wayfinder Coach 

PS:  

YAY!!! I did it … it’s not just in my head, IT’S ON PAPER and I feel good!  There’s still plenty of time to do the chores.  I’m PROUD of myself!